2、Don't Play Hard To Get
别作
扮成一副很难追到手的样子?这不是一点用都没有,但这不是个好主意。
According to experts, the old-school dating technique of playing hard to get actually works: it can make someone who's not head-over-heels for you start to view you as a potential girlfriend. However, it's not the best strategy here because it's not obvious at all – it's way too vague.
专家说,装作很难追到手这种老派约会技巧确实有点用,会让尚未为你倾倒的男生开始把你当做潜在对象。但是这不是最好的主意,太不明显了,太模糊。
即便真的表现出一副很难追的样子,也要给人一点“有可能”的信号。
How is he supposed to know that when you pretend you're too busy to be asked out that you actually do want to grab dinner? Make sure you're giving off an available vibe so he doesn't think you're a super busy, super off-limits kind of person.
如果你确实想和他共进晚餐,但又一直装出超忙的样子,他怎么可能知道!你得给他一点你“可约”的信号,这样他不会觉得你是一个超忙的,他怎么也追不到的人。
3、Laughter Is The Key
笑是关键
不得不说,一个懂幽默、有情趣的女生确实有着极大的吸引力。
If you can make your crush laugh, you're doing pretty well and he's bound to ask you out super soon.
如果你能逗你喜欢的人笑,那你已经做得非常好了,他会很快来约你的。
4、Never Mention Ex-Boyfriends
永远别提前任
你想要通过提前任让对方嫉妒?太天真……
Let's be real: trying to make someone jealous is pretty lame. It usually backfires and just isn't the best idea. If you truly like this person and see a future with them, you don't want to mention your ex-boyfriends. At all. Same goes for anyone else you've casually dated recently.
说实话,让别人嫉妒挺差劲的,这通常会事与愿违。如果你确实喜欢这个人,想继续发展,那就别提前男友。一句也别提。也别提最近随便约会的任何人。
如果想让对方对你产生兴趣,就别老提前男友。不然人家就不想追你了。
If you want this guy to think of you as a love interest, then he needs to think that you're totally available. He won't think that way if you're always bringing up your past loves. Instead, keep your conversations light and positive.
如果你想让这个人对你产生兴趣,就必须让他觉得你是完全可追的。如果你总是提前男友,就可能会打消他的念想了。所以,聊得积极阳光一点。
5、Compliment Him
夸他
当然,我们不是说一通猛夸……这会让他感觉超奇怪。
In a non-creepy way, of course. And it has to make sense. You can't just randomly blurt out that he's so cute, smart, funny, awesome – even if you want to. He'll think you're super weird and your dreams will all be shattered within a single second.
当然你不能夸得很奇怪了,必须夸得有道理。你不能闭着眼说他有多帅、多聪明、多有趣、多厉害——即便你真这么想的。他会觉得你超奇怪,那你的撩汉美梦基本就一秒破碎了。
所以,通过夸人撩汉的正确姿势是什么呢?来来来……
Make sure your compliments are said in a flirty, joking, light-hearted way – and if you're texting, maybe throw in an adorable emoji in there for good measure. Hey, you don't just compliment anyone. Someone has to earn that praise. He'll get the hint.
夸人时,要夸得既撩人,又像在开玩笑,又很轻松。如果你是发消息,可以发些可爱的表情包。让他感觉到,你可不是随便夸人的哦,你的赞赏只给值得赞美的人。他会知道的。
6、
Ask Him To Hang Out
约他出去玩
与其被动等待,不如主动出击。不过,“约他”和“约他出去玩”可是有微妙差别的。
Don’t ask him out. Ask him to hang out – there’s a big difference and it’s an important one. If you’re super casual and ask him to grab a bite sometime or head to a movie, it’ll leave his head spinning and make him wonder just what’s going on. That’s good – you want him to be confused about whether it’s a real date or a just-as-friends thing.
不要说是约会,只说是一块儿出去玩。二者可是有大区别的,而且,这点很重要哦。如果你就是超随意地约他吃个东西,或者看个电影。那他就会思考,究竟是咋回事儿。这很好啊,因为你就要让他感到困惑,思考到底是货真价实的约会,还是朋友间约着玩。
假如对方喜欢你,那他内心肯定波涛汹涌,一定会有所表现的。
If he likes you as much as you like him, he’ll make the mood romantic rather than platonic and will make sure that you know how he feels. He won’t want to let it slide and will want to make you his before anyone else can.
如果他也同样喜欢你,那一定会制造出浪漫的恋爱气息,还会想方设法让你知道他的感受。他肯定不会错失良机,抢在别人前面,把你变成那个她。 |