Yesterday evening, Larry asked me the question unexpectedly, I had prepared a lot, I prefer to answer any questions except that one. I doubted how come I always got the most difficult question to answer. On those occasions, I hate myself for the pool English speaking ability.
　　The boss and his wife spent the hard early years, and they experienced lots of tribulations and finally got success, so he ought to obey his wife forever, that’s what I had answered yesterday.
Coming back from our class, I thought about it a lot, there’re some deep reasons in it, and I’d like to answer that again.
　　From the passage, everybody should act a suitable role in his life, as far as the different occasions changed, the certain person would act different roles. Althought the man used to be a boss of a big company, he was still a grandfather when he was facing his grandson, he should do something the way a grandfather always does. Just like some leaders, he will be a husband however he is successful outside, even if he were a president, he would never be called “Mr. President” by his wife or his children.
　　This made me think something more, you must recognize yourself clearly, never be confused by your so called success. I found in most of the elevators in China, few people abide by the principle of “ladies first”, it has changed into “leaders first”. That’s the sorriness of the society, sorriness of the moral, sorriness of the humanity. You are a leader, that’s the truth, but only in the business field, not all fields,in elevators,  you are just an ordinary person,  women, olds,disableds, children…….those are people who need to be cared for more. and so on. The higher position you’ve got, the more you should pay attention to these kinds of things, otherwise, You will never be a gentleman and never be respected by others indeed.

    昨晚在LARRY英语口语课上，我被问到一个非常意外的问题，其实我准备了很多，偏偏却遇到一个我最最不愿意回答的问题，我怀疑我自己为什么总是这么倒霉地得到最难的问题。每每此时，我总恨自己英语水平太差。
    老板和妻子共度早年的艰难，共同经历了磨难最终取得成功，所以，他必须永远服从妻子，这是我昨天的答案。
    回来时，我思考了这个问题，还有些深层次的原因，在这里再次作答。
    课文中的道理，每个人都在自己生活中扮演一个适合的角度，随着不同的情况，同一个人也要扮演不同的角色。虽然这个人曾是一家大公司的老板，但在孙子面前，他仍然是个爷爷，他要做一个爷爷应该做的一切。正如一些领导，他们无论在外面多么成功，即使当了总统，也别指望妻子和儿女称呼他“总统先生”。
    这让我想到了更多，人必须摆正自己的位置，不要为自己所谓的成功而沾沾自喜。我发现，在中国大部分电梯中，很少人遵循“女士优先”的原则，而是遵循“领导优先”，这是社会、道德和人性的悲哀。诚然，你是领导，但仅仅是在工作上，不是在任何方面，在电梯里，你只是个普通人，更需要得到关照的是老弱病残妇，而不是当官的。越是身居要职，越要注意这些细节，否则，你永远不会成为绅士，永远不会被别人发自内心地尊重。


[ 本帖最后由 性情鼓手 于 2008-4-2 08:27 编辑 ]

这是我昨天在口语班学习《新概念英语》第二册31课的感受。

i have read your article, your literary grace is good ,hehe

your writing so excellent,but your oral always don't take part in the class.

Excellent, we are awaiting your more insteresting story regarding English learning.

ladies first !
that's not fair, just because people think women are weak,so men creat this rule to show their gentility.

being honest wiz u guys, i didnt really understand what u ve talked about. somehow, since i started reading as chinese, it became much easier. english writting is not really that useful as your stage. try to make some foreign friends andtalk to them, as much as u can, as loud as u can. as a recommendation, i think its better to train your oral.

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原帖由 考拉的树干 于 2008-4-17 23:41 发表
being honest wiz u guys, i didnt really understand what u ve talked about. somehow, since i started reading as chinese, it became much easier. english writting is not really that useful as your stage. ...

thx for ur suggestion.
but i still wonder, how come u didnt understand that? was the reason i made mistakes in my article or others?

theoretically there was nothing wrong of your grammer. it is the way u express. normal american people or brithsh people dont say or write things like that. if u want to make a progress on writting, u should read more english newspaper or english pocket books. :) good luck

your writing is excellent,not only English but also Chinese