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本帖最后由 寂静的咖啡壶 于 2016-6-15 14:19 编辑
The four ways to tell if someone is lying to you - without resorting to a polygraph test If you suspect someone isn't being totally honest, listen carefully to what they're saying and how - you might spot one of these four signs.
如果你怀疑某人并没有完全在说实话,请小心留意其说话内容和方式——你可能会发现以下四种迹象之一。
If you suspect someone is lying about something, try to look for these signs
What was the last lie you told? If your answer is along the lines of 'so long ago, I can't remember', that's most likely a big fib - because we lie up to 200 times a day!
你上一次说了什么谎?如果你的回答是类似“太久啦,我不记得了”,这可能就是个谎言——因为我们每天说谎最多可达200次!
This isn't to say you're a shady Machiavellian character. Often the lies we tell are along the lines of "I'm fine" when someone asks how you are.
这并不是说你是个阴暗的不择手段的人物。很多时候我们说的谎是类似有人问你过得怎么样,你回答“挺好的”这种。
Our motivation isn't necessarily to deceive or cover up our tracks. According to Lifehacker , we lie predominantly because "we want to connect ourselves to who we think we should be."
我们的动机并不一定是欺骗或掩盖自己的行为。根据生活类科技博客“生活骇客”(Lifehacker)的说法,我们说谎主要因为“想把真实的自己和我们认为应当成为的自己联系起来”。
But if we're churning out the lies, it means others are too. And while some are innocuous and will have no impact on our life, there's a chance some will.
但如果我们自己大量撒谎,就表示别人也在这么做。且尽管有些谎言无伤大雅,对生活也毫无影响,有些却不然。
Short of forcing someone to take a polygraph test, there are four indicators.
虽然不能强制别人做测谎测试,但有四种说谎迹象。
So, how to spot a liar?
那么,怎样辨别说谎者呢?
1. Third person
1. 第三人称
You can't always have a polygraph machine to hand Someone who's lying will try to keep the self-references to a bare minimum.
说谎者会试图将自我指涉减到最低。
They use the third-person as a means of distancing themselves from the deception.
他们运用第三人称,使自己看起来没有在欺骗别人。
So, for example, instead of saying "I didn't do it" they might say "that didn't happen".
比如他们可能说“那并没有发生”,而不是“我没有做那件事”。 |