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Signs he just wants to be friends
当你喜欢上某个人时,你会特别注意他的行为,迫切想了解他的心意,但又可能因为担心被拒绝而没有告白的勇气。好在除了直截了当的表白,你还可以通过观察一些迹象来判断他的心意。如果你和他的关系之间存在以下8个问题,那么他可能真的只想和你做朋友。
1. You always make the first move
你总是主动
You've gone to the movies, grabbed coffee, and even hit up an amusement park together. You had a fantastic time together and you can't wait to do it again. That's when you realize, though, that he's never the one extending an invite.
你们已经看过电影、喝过咖啡,甚至去过游乐场。你们一起度过了美好的时光,而你对下次约会迫不及待。然而,此时你却发现,他从没有主动邀请你过。
If he's never initiating contact with you, he might be trying to send a message that he's not looking for a romantic relationship. He might be more than willing to tag along as a buddy, though!
如果他从不主动地联系你,那么他可能在向你释放信号:他并不想和你谈恋爱。他可能更想做你的好朋友。
Pro tip: Take a break from reaching out if you're always the one making the first move. Either he will miss you and hit you up or your adventures will come to an end. It's better to know, right?
小贴士:如果你总是那个主动的人,那就暂停联系吧。他要么会想你,约你见面,要么你们的关系可能到此结束。好歹也要有个结果,对吧?
2. He talks up his friends
他谈论他的朋友
When it's time to meet up, you make a real effort to put your best foot forward. You've showered and feel confident, you've got great things to talk about, and you easily establish that you're a pretty great catch.
当你们要见面时,你煞费苦心以最佳状态出现。你洗了澡,信心满满,你准备了很多谈资,你轻松建立了一个魅力十足的形象。
Why, then, is he talking about his friends? If it feels like he's playing matchmaker and suggests that you meet some of his boys, that's really not a good sign.
然而,他怎么谈论起他的好朋友了?如果他好像开始扮演起媒人的角色,并且建议你认识一些他的好哥们儿。这并不是什么好迹象。
Pro tip: Ask him to describe the kind of guy that he thinks is perfect for you. If it's the opposite of who he is, you've got your answer.
小贴士:问他认为什么样的男生最适合你。如果回答和他本人相反,你就清楚答案了。
3. You hang out in groups
你们和一群人一起出去
You've been dreaming of a little one-on-one time with your crush. You can't wait to have him alone so that you can build up the courage to tell him how you feel and see if there's any hope for a future together.
你已经在幻想和喜欢的他独处的时光。你迫不及待地想要和他单独待在一起,这样你就能鼓起勇气告诉他你的感受,并确认你们未来是否有可能在一起。
The problem is, though, that every time you make plans, he brings an entourage! If he's surrounded by a group of friends whenever you're together, he might be putting you in the friend zone.
然而,问题是每当你有所计划时,他总会带上他的“跟班”!如果每次你们在一起,他都会带上一群朋友,那么他可能是把你放在朋友的位置。
Pro tip: Invite him to do something that is clearly meant for two people and see what he says. If he balks or mentions how much better it would be if you went as a group, he probably doesn't want to be alone with you.
小贴士:邀请他做一些明显只能两个人做的事,看看他的反应。如果他推三阻四,并表示一群人一起出去玩比较好时,他可能不想和你单独出去。
4. Your relationship is text-based
你们的关系仅限于“文字”
Maybe you're in a position where you wish you could actually see your crush under any circumstances — even if it's with a group of 50 of your closest friends for breakfast. You just want to see him!
你可能每时每刻都想见到喜欢的人——即使是和50个密友一起吃早餐的时候。你就是想要见到他。
When the guy you're interested in is happy to communicate by text but always finds a way to get out of meeting in person, he might not want to take the relationship to the next level.
当那个人只喜欢和你短信交流,却总找借口拒绝单独见面时,他可能并不想要和你进一步发展。
Pro tip: If he doesn't have much of a social life at all, it could just be that this is a really busy time in his life. Let him know you'd love to hang out when he has the time. If he never makes time for you, move on.
小贴士:如果他根本没有什么社交生活,那么也许他真的是太忙了。让他知道当他有空时,你想和他出去。如果他从来不曾为你腾出时间,那么就放弃吧。
5. He talks about other girls
他谈论其他女孩
It's one thing if you talk about a variety of other people — including exes — during your conversation, but it's another if the guy you like is constantly talking about women he finds attractive or interesting.
如果你们聊天时谈到其他各种人,比如各种前任,这是一回事儿,但是如果你喜欢的对象不停谈论他感兴趣的女生,这又是另一回事儿。
Pay attention to the tone of these interactions and take them at face value. If he is trying to build a relationship with you, he will focus on getting to know you better instead of wasting time talking about other women.
注意这些对话的语气,予以重视。如果他想要和你维持良好的关系,他会花更多的注意力在你身上,而不会浪费时间讨论其他女性。
Pro tip: If he's telling you about the dates he's going on, he clearly wants you to know that he's seeing other people.
小贴士:如果他告诉你他的约会计划,那么他就是在明确告诉你他有喜欢的人了。 |